LIVING SEXY IS... Evolving

When I first met Cyndie, she was the key speaker at a brunch event and I was immediately blown away by how much charisma, presence and confidence a woman could carry. With her huge hair and sassy, colorful style, Cyndie is the epitome of a #LadyBoss who doesn't ask for permission and instead of asking for forgiveness later, she just demands attention. 

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After the event, I went up to Cyndie to tell her I wanted us to hang out, because I was certain we'd be fast friends. A few lady dates later, turns out I was right. We'd talk about work and dreams and men and life and open up to each other as if we were lifetime buddies. She's the shit. And I'll tell you why.

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She's open about herself. She shares her gifts. She encourages women to pursue greatness. She's unapologetic about not pleasing everyone. She's herself. 

I asked Cyndie if I could feature her on the blog because I love the fact that she's such a gorgeous human being who's honed in on how much love and beauty she has to give. And she indeed gives it! She's a stellar example of someone who's "living sexy" because she acknowledges the ebbs and flows of life and instead of being ruled by them, she says "I'm the boss."

It's that type of confidence that sets Cyndie apart. Her presence oozes confidence and ease. Of course it's not a steady feeling, Cyndie admits, and confidence / feeling beautiful has gone through its own journey through the years.

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It shifts. It really started to shift over the age of 30 for me. Sexiness equates to confidence. It's not necessarily what others see in you but it's what emanates from you.

My legs were better when I was 25, but at 38 I feel way sexier.

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On a smaller scale -- say, on a daily basis -- doesn't that hold true as well? Honestly, one minute I can feel like I'm rocking this whole life thing, and in the blink of an eye, it seems the world is crumbling all around me. It's maddening sometimes, but other times I realize these shifts all have a common denominator - my perspective. It's what's in charge of deciding how I feel or react to things, and I think it's also the leading cause of the grand scale beauty misconceptions among so many women. It's perspective that affirms a woman's low-level energy levels when her world seems to be on a downward spiral. It's the same perspective that provides the music for the woman to strut down the street when she's feeling powerfully beautiful. 

As with all other worldly situations, an even perspective is temporary, and when ours is lacking strength, it's important to have a community of people who are there to pick us up. 

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We all have those moments when we don't feel as grounded, we don't feel as strong within ourselves, and it's in those moments that we need women around us to be confident and stand up for us when we can't do it ourselves.

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I sometimes find myself wondering how the world would be if little things were to change. For instance, what would happen if all women would completely banish bashing and instead encourage sister love? What would the world look like if we all just got along? I know I said I was thinking of "little things" and you might think "everyone getting along" is no small feat, but I disagree. It's so much easier to be nice than it is to not. Cyndie and I spoke about the power of complimenting, man or woman, and how it not only has the power to turn the receiver's day around, but also your own! Spreading love and kindness is such a simple solution to so many issues, and I truly think it's as easy as it sounds. 

Starting with woman-to-woman. 

She's crazy. She's a cat lady. But she's not a "crazy cat lady." Cyndie Spiegel, everyone!

She's crazy. She's a cat lady. But she's not a "crazy cat lady." Cyndie Spiegel, everyone!

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Women need more love of other women, and support and encouragement from other women. I think sometimes women can be really judgmental of other women - we can use more of the support of each other to make each other feel attractive, confident, stable and sexy.

We have allowed the opposite sex to control what we think of as sexiness. The more women can help each other define what sexiness is, the more confident we all become. 

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Let this serve as a toast for all of us: May we love ourselves, support each other and continue building strong bonds of support and encouragement!

HAPPY MONTH OF LOVE, lovelies!

xoxo

Tutti

 

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