LIVING SEXY IS... Evolving

When I first met Cyndie, she was the key speaker at a brunch event and I was immediately blown away by how much charisma, presence and confidence a woman could carry. With her huge hair and sassy, colorful style, Cyndie is the epitome of a #LadyBoss who doesn't ask for permission and instead of asking for forgiveness later, she just demands attention. 

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After the event, I went up to Cyndie to tell her I wanted us to hang out, because I was certain we'd be fast friends. A few lady dates later, turns out I was right. We'd talk about work and dreams and men and life and open up to each other as if we were lifetime buddies. She's the shit. And I'll tell you why.

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She's open about herself. She shares her gifts. She encourages women to pursue greatness. She's unapologetic about not pleasing everyone. She's herself. 

I asked Cyndie if I could feature her on the blog because I love the fact that she's such a gorgeous human being who's honed in on how much love and beauty she has to give. And she indeed gives it! She's a stellar example of someone who's "living sexy" because she acknowledges the ebbs and flows of life and instead of being ruled by them, she says "I'm the boss."

It's that type of confidence that sets Cyndie apart. Her presence oozes confidence and ease. Of course it's not a steady feeling, Cyndie admits, and confidence / feeling beautiful has gone through its own journey through the years.

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It shifts. It really started to shift over the age of 30 for me. Sexiness equates to confidence. It's not necessarily what others see in you but it's what emanates from you.

My legs were better when I was 25, but at 38 I feel way sexier.

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On a smaller scale -- say, on a daily basis -- doesn't that hold true as well? Honestly, one minute I can feel like I'm rocking this whole life thing, and in the blink of an eye, it seems the world is crumbling all around me. It's maddening sometimes, but other times I realize these shifts all have a common denominator - my perspective. It's what's in charge of deciding how I feel or react to things, and I think it's also the leading cause of the grand scale beauty misconceptions among so many women. It's perspective that affirms a woman's low-level energy levels when her world seems to be on a downward spiral. It's the same perspective that provides the music for the woman to strut down the street when she's feeling powerfully beautiful. 

As with all other worldly situations, an even perspective is temporary, and when ours is lacking strength, it's important to have a community of people who are there to pick us up. 

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We all have those moments when we don't feel as grounded, we don't feel as strong within ourselves, and it's in those moments that we need women around us to be confident and stand up for us when we can't do it ourselves.

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I sometimes find myself wondering how the world would be if little things were to change. For instance, what would happen if all women would completely banish bashing and instead encourage sister love? What would the world look like if we all just got along? I know I said I was thinking of "little things" and you might think "everyone getting along" is no small feat, but I disagree. It's so much easier to be nice than it is to not. Cyndie and I spoke about the power of complimenting, man or woman, and how it not only has the power to turn the receiver's day around, but also your own! Spreading love and kindness is such a simple solution to so many issues, and I truly think it's as easy as it sounds. 

Starting with woman-to-woman. 

She's crazy. She's a cat lady. But she's not a "crazy cat lady." Cyndie Spiegel, everyone!

She's crazy. She's a cat lady. But she's not a "crazy cat lady." Cyndie Spiegel, everyone!

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Women need more love of other women, and support and encouragement from other women. I think sometimes women can be really judgmental of other women - we can use more of the support of each other to make each other feel attractive, confident, stable and sexy.

We have allowed the opposite sex to control what we think of as sexiness. The more women can help each other define what sexiness is, the more confident we all become. 

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Let this serve as a toast for all of us: May we love ourselves, support each other and continue building strong bonds of support and encouragement!

HAPPY MONTH OF LOVE, lovelies!

xoxo

Tutti

 

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Featured: Cyndie Spiegel

Music: Slightly Stoopid - Collie Man

 

It's Time For A #LoveFest Giveaway!

It's finally here! FEBRUARY!!! Which means our country is buzzing with everything-love-related, and I obviously love it. 

To celebrate this excuse for a #LoveFest, I've partnered with some of my favorite brands - ranging from lingerie companies to macaroon shops to natural skin care lines - and we are hosting this very special GIVEAWAY! It's special because it'll be FIVE days of free gifts that are truly and honestly products I adore!!! Are you excited yet?!

To participate, make sure to find me on Instagram (@tuttidelmonte) to get notified as soon as the contest begins (February 8, 2016.)

I'm looking forward to seeing you all over there and treating you to these outstanding (and delicious) gifts!

LOTS OF LOVE!

Tutti

 

From My Aura To Yours | Happy New Year!

Sometimes a mirror just doesn't cut it for us to truly see ourselves. Despite the clear reflection staring back at us, we may or may not have a jaded view of ourselves due to society, insecurities, ignorance, reluctancy, etc. There's a gap, then, between what we see and what is

I experience this time and time again, when women look at their pictures and mention something that needs to be changed that I would've never noticed, or when a friend comes to me feeling a rainbow of negative emotions that so clearly have a simple solution in my eyes. The reality is that there are so many external factors that get in the way of us really seeing ourselves but sometimes a third-party is able to shorten the gap between the differing perceptions. 

Anything that brings light to why we think the way we do or why we act the way we do is always fun and, as humans, we long to know the why of things. So in the spirit of finding out "stuff," I booked a slot to get my aura photo taken. Radiant Human is led by Christina Lonsdale and has been growing immensely the past few years because of the gorgeous portraits and colors the picture produces but also, in my opinion, because people love knowing more about themselves. 

The experience was very cool and I highly recommend it to everyone! I don't want to give away too many details of the actual process in case you get to participate with Radiant Human, but all in all, I'm so pleased with my aura photo! 

Aura photo by Christina Lonsdale of Radiant Human

Aura photo by Christina Lonsdale of Radiant Human

After your polaroid-size photo is ready, Christina goes through what all the colors mean and how they may manifest in you and your life. Like I said, I'm so interested in knowing the why of things, especially things like behavioral patterns, so this was as reaffirming as the most on-point zodiac horoscope could ever be. 

The gist of these colors is that some have to do with your internal, some with how you present yourself to the world, others have to do with your conscious, and mixed together, they show a colorful painting that make up who you are. The colors and high-quality portrait alone are enough to make this popular, add to that an element of self-awareness and I'm not surprised Radiant Human is doing so well.

As 2016 approaches, I'm writing this post in the hopes of inspiring you to assess who you are and who you show up to the world as. Are they aligned? Would you like to be less of something and more of something else? What are you waiting for? There's so much energy inside us that's meant to be intentionally shared with the world because, guess what, it already is!

Today and everyday we get opportunities to observe, notice and move. It's up to you what direction you want to move in and it's up to you when you start.

HAPPY NEW YEAR, my friends! Sending you all lots of love and positive energy for 2016!

In love + color + light,

Tutti

 

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