Wedding Season: Bridal Shower Gift Ideas

Photo by Tutti del Monte

Photo by Tutti del Monte

Wedding season seems to be year-round rather than seasonal now or is it just me? With bridal showers sprinkled through the year, I decided to gift YOU some ideas to gift your friend the bride!

  1. Rose quartz crystal - commemorate all the love with one of these delicate and stunning crystals. Their healing properties are sure to magnify this special time in her life. I'd pair it with a smudging set of either palo santo or sage to "clear the energy" of her place. This is a great gift because she can display it pretty much anywhere in her home and it immediately evokes femininity and love!

  2. Cookbook - You know your friend best, so you'll likely be familiar with her cooking style and eating habits. There are TONS of cookbooks out there, so take some time thinking of what types of foods she'll want to spend time cooking and then start searching! I personally know Robyn Youkilis and her recipes are always yummy, so here's her latest book and this other one I really love too.

  3. Cheese knives set! It's something fancy that I wouldn't personally buy for myself but it's so nice to have for those wine-and-cheese get togethers. I like these wooden ones and these design ones.

  4. A new passport cover - you know her style well, so why not get her a gorgeous and durable passport cover? You can also monogram just about any case nowadays, if that's your/her thing. A quick search on Etsy led me to these cute options: leather, mandala artwork and some other designs!

  5. Cleaning supplies set - It may sound odd, but everyone needs them! And there are some really pretty and yummy-smelling products out there. My favorites are any by Meyer's brand.

  6. Weighed blanket - it reduces anxiety and allows for more restful sleep!

  7. Sauna in a box - a mini spa from the comfort of her home. The benefits of sauna use include reduced stress, flushing of toxins, improved circulation, soothed muscles and joints and deeper sleep.

  8. Soaking salts and body oil- again with the relaxation, but everyone needs a bit of R&R when it comes to weddings. My favorite is this Jasmine Himalayan salt product. And after the bath, when the skin is in extra need of hydration, a proper body oil is just what the doctor ordered. My favorite body oil is this Geranium + Ylang Ylang one by Palermo Skincare.

  9. Wine subscription - there are so many monthly wine subscription services around, and what's so nice about them is that they keep the party going! Here are some options: Winc, Glassful and Cellars Wine Club.

  10. Boudoir photo shoot - last but most definitely not least, why not gift your girl the gift of self-love? I firmly believe that all women should feel empowered and sexy. A boudoir session does just that - it creates space for women to get in touch with their innate beauty and tap into what it means to feel powerful and beautiful. A boudoir photo shoot is a perfect gift from her bestie or even if her close group of friends buy her a gift together! Get in touch with me so we can discuss options😉

There you have it! It's by no means a comprehensive list, but I think it'll at least get your juices flowing with ideas. Have you given a stellar wedding gift in the past that I should include in this list? Other women would surely love to know about it!

Sending love and the spirit of giving this wedding season!

Love,

Tutti

Embracing Imperfection | The Refined Collective

This post is in collaboration with The Refined Collective Series. Be sure and check out the other ladies in this wonderful group: The Refined WomanJulien GarmanBrynna WatkinsJackie Viramontez,  Lauren ScruggsRebecca Hajek and Erica Chen.


Image by Katherine Harris

Image by Katherine Harris

A few years ago, when I was rebranding Boudoir by Tutti to properly define its core values, one of the most intentional decisions I made was to eliminate the word imperfection from my vocabulary. Women would reach out to me, interested in booking a boudoir shoot with the caveat that I retouch their imperfections and then they'd list them off for me. Early in my business, I basically did whatever my clients wanted me to do. If they wanted me to get edit wrinkles, lines, skin, dimples, scars, acne, moles or any other skin feature, I'd simply do it, no questions asked. This resulted in pictures I can barely look at now without cringing. They're so over-edited and fake that I can barely stand it! Not just for the amateur aesthetic they display, but because they don't represent the woman I remember meeting and photographing that day. They don't showcase the way she made me feel or the essence of her being. Did I do a disservice to her by airbrushing her skin and erasing the marks that make her, her? The answer is yes and no. In booking a shoot, going through the experience and seeing pictures of themselves that reflect a wonderful version of themselves, these women felt joyous and beautiful. I can't discount the power of that. On the other hand, they continued on with their lives perhaps believing that what makes those pictures beautiful is the fact that those features were erased from existence, and that's certainly counts as a disservice.

I've expanded and refined my vision for women in the past seven years in a way that serves both my values and my vision for women. I'm confident we can move toward being women who not only embrace the skin we're in but also stand in the power that comes with that truth. In practical terms, what this means is refusing to use destructive words such as imperfections to refer to natural features of our physical body, embracing the features we have difficulty accepting as well as celebrating the ones we adore, being tender and loving to our bodies through wellness and continuing to fight for authenticity in relationships, interactions and media's representation of women. 

During a recent interview, I asked a woman to describe a visualization exercise where she pictured her future self. In her mind, the picture she saw, albeit a physical representation of herself, represented her actual spirit - her essence - her soul. She referenced how her children see her, how no matter what she's wearing, how congested or sick she might feel, how tired or unattractive she might appear on any given day, her children still run to her for love and comfort. They see her essence. She is enough. She is beautiful. She is worthy. It painted such a warm image in my mind about how simple this all really is. You and I don't carry imperfections - we are exactly how we are supposed to be. 

We are enough.

We are beautiful.

We are worthy. 

What if we approached our perception of ourselves in the same way children do - with carefree and joyous abandon? When there's nothing standing in our way, joy erupts. When we flip our need for our physical bodies to speak to how we feel inside and instead allow our beautiful essences to coat our physicality, we will feel worthy, seen and beautiful. Always. 

As your peer and friend, I admit this isn't the attitude I wake up with daily. It takes practice, community and tools to peel back layers of yucky residue. One of my favorite ways to center myself and feel my spirit is by using affirmations during meditation. With eyes closed, a serene environment and breath connection, I find these repeated phrases helpful in reminding me how much beauty and love rests inside me. Take yourself through your favorite meditation and use any of these powerful words to bring clarity to your own spirit and essence.

May I be filled with loving-kindness.

May I be well.

May I be peaceful and at ease.

May I be happy.

May I be appreciative and thankful.

May I be blessed with pure love and light.

May I be joyful. May I be now smiling.

May I be larger to cultivate more loving kindness.

May I be healthy.

May I live with ease.

May I be blessed.

May YOU feel ease and peace, my darlings, and may you know there are no such things as imperfections.

With love,
Tutti

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Feeling Inspired by... Stockings!

I don't know if there's anything sexier than a beautiful pair of stockings. From solid to fishnet to nude to black, pantyhose make for feminine, flattering and sultry boudoir pictures. Add to that some lighting, composition and posing tricks led by yours truly and you've got yourself all the ingredients for a killer lingerie ad (featuring you). Here are some of my most recent favorite images from a playful boudoir shoot featuring this style element!

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I want to create more of these! If you're ready to be my next muse, get in touch with me :) I'm inspired and excited! 

With love,

Tutti