LIVING SEXY IS... Grace and Freedom

In order to begin this post in the most meaningful way, I decided to look up the meaning of the name Francesca. After visiting a handful of unhelpful sites that basically summed up the name in three words, "woman from France," (geeee, thanks!), I decided to click on the third link in my Google Search. You see, I have this thing that I don't usually click on the first few sites that appears on the search list because I want to give the underdogs a break by helping to pump up their SEO (go team go!). All tech-talk joking aside, I'm so glad I clicked, because it gave me the only fun meaning to the name Francesca: the free one.

Francesca is a simple woman to describe, not because she's "basic," but because she's natural. She's grounded in who she is, while being able to have a spirit that seems to almost float beside you. Her beauty is one that captures people's attention in a double-look kind of way. Her easygoing  and go-with-the-flow demeanor is juxtaposed by a fiery side that'll push you to dance till 6am.

She's the type of woman who makes cooking a 4-course meal look effortless.

She's the type of woman who's just as comfortable wearing a skin-tight red dress as she is rocking a bohemian look. 

She's the type of woman who brings you sunflowers when she goes to the market.

She's the type of woman who's home you walk into and you immediately feel a sense of calm. 

She's the type of woman who isn't afraid to smile as a stranger compliments her.

Francesca goes through life with an unspoken grace about her that leaves a trail of femininity, light and freedom. 


"I don't feel connected with the world if I'm not connected with myself."


She mentions her mother a lot, crediting her as the source of inspiration behind going through life with grace and intention. Throughout her life, her parents played a strong role in encouraging her to ask deeper questions within herself, to get to know herself as a woman and to not be afraid of observing prior to acting. This mindful way of living has shaped Francesca into a woman who's totally OK when something's off. 


"I have the same battles all women go through... You have to feel the downs to feel the ups, and the ups are the moment you're set free."


This idea of freedom came up toward the end of our interview (way before that web site listed her name as "the free one"!), and I'm so happy Francesca mentioned it, because it's the perfect way to complete a proper description of who she is: she's GRACEFUL and she's FREE.

(cue: Miss Congeniality pageant song, "she's beauty and she's grace, she's Miss United States, blah blah blah)


"Freedom is a thing that I also live by: always having an open heart and an open free spirit." 


In its most basic sense, Francesca says that at its core, grace stems from love and it can be expressed through the body, through different ways of being, ways of existing, etc.


"Anywhere from career to work to love to sex to anything, I think carrying a life with grace is the sexiest thing a woman can really carry with her."


So, friends, here's to a life of grace, of freedom and of tons of sexiness.

Until next week!

Here's a sneak peak behind-the-scenes!

LIVING SEXY IS... Finding Freedom from Judgements


So Jess is CLEARLY a stunner. She is one of the sweetest, most genuine and kind-hearted women I've met. From how we met to the many adventures we've shared since, calling Jessica a friend has been a true honor. In celebration of her journey to the land down under, where she has decided to move to with her beau after a 5-year stint in New York City/ Williamsburg, I asked her to please spend an hour with me so I could attempt to capture her magnificent beauty and chat a bit about what living sexy means to her.


We’re all works in progress, so if you can just stay present, and keep loving yourself, you’re going to be happy and feel sexy. - Jessica



Jessica and I met two years ago in Brooklyn when she was throwing a party in her building's courtyard and I happened to be staring down at it when one of her friends spotted me and invited me to join. A normal person would be semi-mortified, but we're talking about me here, the person who still smiles at strangers in the scary streets of New York City. Two years later, Jess and I have formed a true bond that will surely get even stronger with distance and time.

The reason I asked Jessica to be my first feature in this "Living Sexy" section is because she's an embodiment of a modern-day woman who's going for her dreams and pursuing her dream career. She's pursuing her dream life - and that's sexy.

When I asked her to participate, her girlish charm immediately turned on and said, "Who, meeeee???"  That's part of the reason she totally rocks being a sexy woman. We quickly started discussing outfit ideas, location options, etc. but when she showed me this dress, I knew it was the only piece we'd need to make this shoot a spectacular piece of art. Like many of the really cool ensembles Jessica puts together, this one came directly from her mom, making it absolutely perfect for this shoot. Jessica's mom passed away a few years ago, and it always stings when I remember that Jess is missing this huge part of her and yet is STILL able to be the shining light that she is. It simply amazes me. Hence, here we are. 

When I asked Jess what it means to her to live a sexy life, she took a few minutes to think about it. She finally said (and this was right after the shoot, as we were walking back to my apartment), "I think it's just letting go of all judgements... judgements toward myself and judgements from others, because once I do that, it's completely freeing."

I couldn't agree more. As I tell many of my clients and friends who ask me to take their picture, my favorite thing to capture is movement, because I always find beauty and freedom in those tiny moments in between the poses. There are pockets of light that lie within judgmental thoughts, so being able to simply let go of them altogether, produces this wonderful feeling of lightness and joy - and THAT is what I look to capture in people.


“Hell yeah, Im gonna twirl, my dress is gonna fly open… poor little kids have to cover their eyes... traumatizing kids since 1987.”


I hope you've enjoyed this first feature for "Living Sexy." Upon talking about it with friends and my mentors, the excitement I feel for its progress and development has only increased. So please join me in this adventure by subscribing to the blog and share with your friends so we can continue building each other up!

With love always,




Feature: Jessica Bunge, contact information by request