We all have this thing called intuition. Even though it’s often referred to as “women’s intuition,” it’s within us all. When it comes to relationships, an interesting thing happens in relation to our “fight or flight”/ self-preservation tendencies: as soon as a red flag is revealed that reminds us of a previous red flag (from a past [failed] relationship), we say, “’peace out, I know exactly where this is going so I’m going to protect myself before it happens.”
Before you even think it, yes, I’m aware that if it smells like a red flag, looks like a red flag and moves like a red flag, it’s a fuc&^ng red flag. And that’s where our intuition kicks in - seemingly. But, let’s play devil’s advocate for a second. What if it’s just a misidentified red flag? What if our fear of being burned again and desire to protect ourselves is a simple story that we’ve been playing on repeat over and over again? What if we’re confusing intuition for fear?
Moreover, what if that specific fear is keeping us from our dreams?
This of course doesn’t apply only to relationships.
As a creative, I have tons of fears that relate to my work and my dreams. If I’m honest with myself and think of the last time a dream of mine was realized, the turning point was that I did something about it no matter what my own head was telling me.
See, our heads usually get in our own way. It’s out hearts we must listen to. Too much power given to your head will cloud the messages received from your heart. In relationships, this surfaces as misidentified “red flags” and self-sabotaging something that might just need a tune-up. In work, this shows up as going years and years in the same job despite being miserable or simply settling for “it’s not that bad.” In life, this appears as the feeling of, “What am I doing with my life?”
What in the world are we here for if it’s not to make ourselves and others deliriously happy?
Please tell me.
What else is it about?
No matter how much I bring religion, human nature or history into the argument, it all boils down to happiness. Power is desired by many because it’ll bring them happiness. Or money. But essentially, all the negatively stereotyped aspirations people might mention have a genuine base of a pure desire for happiness.
Happiness is a simple formula.
To be happy, you must listen to your heart. To be happy, you must let go of fear.
To be happy, you must BE HAPPY.
So be happy, dammit, it’s the only reason you’re here. Get rid of what doesn’t serve you and is holding you back.
You deserve greatness. We all do.
And to quote my favorite line from my favorite movie (Meet Joe Black):
"Be deliriously happy or at least leave yourself open to be... The truth is, honey, there's no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love, well, you haven't lived a life at all. But you have to try, because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived. "