LIVING SEXY IS... Being The Best Version of Yourself

I’m beginning to realize I have many girl crushes. What it boils down to is my desire to make people happy and show them how beautiful and special they are. When I meet people, women mostly, who embody beauty, confidence and grace, I immediately start thinking of what style of photo shoot I’d do with her, where we’d go, what questions I’d ask during the interview - all in hopes of capturing her essence.

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Almost two years ago, when I met Jessica Morelli, I knew she was a special gal. Not only does she have a pristine spirit and delicate beauty, she’s also incredibly passionate about things that are dear to my heart - natural skincare, essential oils, using nature and its gifts to self-heal, etc. So of course, we bonded over oils, shared entrepreneurial stories, talked about trying to live a serene and balanced life in New York City, discussed boyfriends, part-time jobs, full-time jobs, pottery classes, knitting workshops, and just like that, on a muggy Brooklyn day, we fell in love. HA! Just kidding - but I’m glad you’re paying attention. 

Jessica, founder of Palermo Body, is a true girl’s girl in a just-girlie-enough way. She’s wickedly smart about more topics I can even remember and is quick to lend a helping hand. In a nutshell, she’s a gem. Aside from her skincare line (which you must check out), what intrigues me most about Jessica is her deep desire to educate people on the simplicity of self-love through skincare, because that’s really what beauty / skin products are for - to take time for yourself and feel great. 

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As a person and as a brand, her goal is to make people feel special, to aspire to be the best versions of themselves. In fact, when I asked her how this Living Sexy Is feature ties in to her vision for the world, her answer was quite simple.

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If we can hone in on feeling beautiful on the inside, that is what will exude on the outside. It will be natural for it to just pour out of you. That's how I want people to use my products.

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Me: So you’re saying I should pamper myself with yummy products, take time for myself, feel beautiful on the inside and then that innate beauty will just pour out of me?

Jessica: Yes.

Me (nodding vigorously): I’m down with that.

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Who’s with me? Actually. First of all, does everyone agree - at least in theory - that we all have beauty within us that’s just waiting to be discovered/ acknowledged so that it may pour out of us?

I certainly and adamantly agree.

So then why, as a society, do we struggle with this concept? Why are there so many more cases of self-doubt that lead to terrible, life-long struggles than there are cases of self-love?

In my interview with Jessica, she mentioned how there’s a shift happening, and you may be aware of it already without really knowing it. But take some time to notice different advertisements around you. Chances are there are elements - namely, models - that wouldn’t have been used, say, five years ago. It’s true! There’s definitely a movement toward a more “real” representation of women and, more importantly, a movement toward understanding ourselves as women and supporting one another. It’s a marvelous trend that I hope continues to unfold for years to come and, truthfully, it’s the main goal of this column, Living Sexy Is.

Circling back to the many different negative outcomes that may sprout from self-doubt, self-hate and self-judgement, I now want to emphasize the outcomes that may flourish from the opposite mindset - self-care, self-love, and self-acceptance. Can you picture a world where communities nurture communal uplifting rather than individualist competition? You can break that down into many mini-realms: between women, between men and women, between religions, between cultures, between countries, etc. You get the idea. It’s a powerful thought to consider, and one that I hope you do, because we’re all unconsciously (or consciously for some of us) planting seeds for our communities that WILL trickle down for generations. 

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Jessica and her simple mission to make people feel great has so much more meaning than the plain surface of the statement. She’s created a brand that allows men and women to take time for themselves, to connect with the earth and to feel wonderful. It’s no wonder she’s doing so well because everything she does is done with devotion and great care. It’s because of all this and because of her ability to make ME feel special that she’s this week’s feature. 

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tutti.delmonte.boudoir.photography.newyork
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I couldn’t be more excited to share this beautiful woman with you and if you have a chance, visit her web site to learn more about her handcrafted products. They're luxurious and amazing.

With love,

Tutti

 

PS. If you missed the video from the previous post, here it is again! Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the blog to stay up-to-date on posts and to wonder why sometimes the subject of the e-mails don't match the content. Just keeping it human, that's all! (read: oops!)

 

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Feature: Jessica Morelli of Palermo Body

Instagram: @palermobody

Location: Bellocq Tea Atelier, Greenpoint

Instagram Tutti: @tuttidelmonte

 

LIVING SEXY IS... Finding Your Voice

There’s no lack of beauty surrounding these two powerhouse goddesses. They’re a spoonful of sugar and spice with a mellow finish. Meet Krissy + Chloe, co-founders of one of New York City’s most serene and diverse yoga studios - Sky Ting Yoga, located in the heart of China Town amidst exotic fruit stands and pungent fish shops. They’re the real deal not only in the yoga world, but in the world in general. 

Chloe Kernaghan and Krissy Jones of Sky Ting Yoga

Chloe Kernaghan and Krissy Jones of Sky Ting Yoga

The Living Sexy Questionnaire! 

I’ve been wanting to feature them on this “Living Sexy” column for a long time because I want you to get to know two women who exemplify living with grace, humility, self-respect and curiosity. Following their journey on social media as they hop from island to island and fly from coast to coast, it’s easy to believe they live a perfectly beautiful life. And to a certain extent they do. What I love about Krissy and Chloe though is that they’re just in it like the rest of us. They’re blessed, successful and popular, but what sets them apart is the quick way in which they’re able to bring their feet back to the ground rather than continue floating upward in an air balloon (which admittedly sounds like a lot of fun). They keep each other in check and keep things real.  

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From the time I met them while getting my Yoga teaching certification to the moment I sat down with them at their bright and serene studio and chatted about this, I’ve loved Chloe and Krissy because their way of being is super disarming - in the best way possible. They’re both quirky, cute, gorgeous, funny and ridiculously smart, and they allow you to be yourself.

When I asked Krissy about advice she’d give her younger self, she first said "to be yourself,” but as she kept rolling with it, she added a valuable nugget of wisdom that so many of us forget often. 

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MAKE YOUR PERSONAL TENDENCIES YOUR STRENGTHS INSTEAD OF TRYING TO HIDE BEHIND THEM. 

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Have you ever taken a moment to think about what your strengths are? We all tend to focus on our weaknesses and often obsess over how to overcome them, but there is so much more power and wiggle room when you prioritize what’s already within you! I remember reading about this in Tom Rath’s StrengthsFinder book.  It says, “all too often, our natural talents go untapped. From the cradle to the cubicle, we devote more time to fixing our shortcomings than to developing our strengths."

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Chloe Kernaghan

Chloe Kernaghan

Krissy Jones

Krissy Jones

I’m definitely guilty of it, and it certainly takes a rewiring of the brain to start focusing on my innate abilities rather than my innate weaknesses, but it’s simple math really: “do what you’re good at = find success; focus on what you’re not good at = struggle with success.” 

For Krissy and Chloe, their talent for expression, teaching, inspiring and building a community is evident with the reputable brand they’ve managed to build with impressive speed. From concept to creation, Sky Ting Yoga is a tangible example of how two individuals are able to hone in on what they’re meant to do and DO IT. I’m just so incredible happy for them. 

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Of course, their continued success and countless blessings don’t discount the hard work and efforts they’ve made along the way, but their gut instincts have kicked in at the right moments. Chloe admits self-trust is something she’s had to work on (and if you’ve ever tried yoga, you know trust is one of those concepts that trickles in at any given moment through the practice as well, not just life!). Here’s Chloe’s pearl of wisdom that she continues to affirm herself with,

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For me, allowing trust to come through, trusting the impulse, trusting the life choices that were already decided for me, and going with them as opposed to being afraid.

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I can’t speak highly enough of these two women. They’re incredibly passionate about yoga, their studio, their students, their minds, their practices and their communities. If you’re in the New York area (or would like to travel on one of their exotic retreats) I urge you to look them up and give them a try. Their realness will strike you, in the best possible way.

With so much gratitude in my heart for being so generous with your time and knowledge, Krissy and Chloe - THANK YOU. You’re both a blessing to the world and an inspiration for dreamers!

Continue spreading your light.

With love,

Tutti

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As always, here's a fun video of our shoot! 

LIVING SEXY IS... On The Road!!!

Friends and lovely people,

I'm beyond ecstatic to announce I've decided to take the Living Sexy Is series ON THE ROAD. Why? Well, why not?! There are so many women and people I'm dying to connect with to feature on the blog, and as cosmopolitan and diverse as New York City is, I just can't resist the urge to make this a national thing (international coming soon, too!).

Can you feel my excitement? Perhaps it's a mix of caffeine and overall buzz but WOOHOO!

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Here are some details of what's to come:

  • Features of badass people from all across the United States, including some of my favorite yogis and influencers! (See below who's next!!!)

  • "Boudoir Days" hosted by featured guests

So why am I telling you all this? Well, because I'd love to come to YOUR city, of course!

If you're interested in hosting a special "boudoir day" for your tribe of women, here is some information about what it entails:

As a hostess, you'd receive:

  • Free photoshoot - lifestyle, boudoir, or a mix of both!

  • Full gallery of edited, professional images for your use across sites and social media (with proper photographer credit)

This is such a fun opportunity to bring your friends together and celebrate being beautiful, strong individuals. Whether you're in a relationship or not, whether you've embraced your body or not, whether you're reaching a life milestone or not, there is no better time than right now to be thankful for who you are and the life you have. There are so many elements in our life that we forget to celebrate, and the present moment is often one of them.

This opportunity is for you, your best friend, your sister and mother, your bridesmaids and fellow colleagues - it's truly for everyone you want to connect with on an intimate level and share an opportunity to feel loved. 

First stop: Los Angeles to feature Liz arch!

After years of following her journey and story, I reached out to a personal inspiration of mine: Liz Arch - a stunning woman who inspires thousands of people every day through yoga and honesty - and invited her to be featured on my blog. To my absolute surprise, she not only answered, but was thrilled to be a part of this!!! Liz is the pure definition of a badass. I can't even begin to explain how freaking excited I am to photograph, interview and feature her on my next trip to LA.

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For those interested in this Los Angeles "Boudoir Day," below are some details. E-mail me at tuttiphotography@gmail.com if you have any questions! There will be very limited spots available so make sure to get in touch with me as soon as possible so one of those may be yours!

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Photo by Maggie Zulovic

Photo by Maggie Zulovic

Looking forward to meeting you all during my next adventures! Stay tuned for many more features coming very soon.

Sending you lots of love, 

Tutti