LIVING SEXY IS... Feeling Self-Confident In A Poised, Classy Way

She's a vision. She's an inspiration. She's LIGHT.

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I have a vivid memory from when I lived in Puerto Rico. I was riding in the back seat of my mom's Mitsubishi Montero, and we were at a stop light on our way to my grandparents' frame shop. Like many intersections in Puerto Rico, this one had vendors at every corner. A wrinkly, extra-tan man walked up to each car to try to sell whatever he was selling that day. I could see him a couple cars up. When he approached ours, Mama rolled down the window and did what has stuck with me all these years: she chatted him up! Asked about him, his life, his family, his day, his sales, etc. then proceeded to buy a banana bunch from him - which was probably used for her famously-delicious banana bread now that I think about it. 

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This is the type of woman my mother is. No matter how many pearls or stones or diamonds she wears, they still don't hold a candle to the pure gold that's in her heart. There is no doubt she's a beautiful person on the outside, as you'll see in these images, but what truly shines is her inner being. 

We touched on this a little bit during our interview (see above), and Christine said that sexiness is about embracing your natural traits as GIFTS. I thought that was such a great way of putting it. Gifts!!! 

We're all individually beautiful. We're all individually-and-uniquely sexy. The uniqueness is what sets us apart!

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It's almost a fun sense of adventure. - Christine

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Speaking of adventures, I have an idea. 

Find 3 minutes of silence in your day to sit down with a pen and paper. Simply think about the traits you have that no one else does. And if you start thinking in a pessimistic way, just remind yourself that every single part of you is unique to you. We may both have a great smile, but what is it about YOUR smile that makes people's hearts warm? What is it about your eyes that encourages people to trust you? What is it about your oratory, the way you speak, that demands people to listen? 

If you dig deep and give yourself permission to look, you'll see you have so many GIFTS that are waiting to be unleashed and shared with the world. And once you do, there will be no stopping the sexy train that you've boarded. 

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Always be true to yourself. Feel Free. Feel Liberated. - Christine

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LIVING SEXY IS... Going Through Life With a Killer Attitude

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BADA BOOM BADA BING.

That's how easy it is for Kristina Steward, businesswoman extraordinaire, to charm your pants off. She's about as woman as woman gets. A banter here and witty remark there slips from her tongue within the first two sentences she'll speak to you and before you know it, she's officially bewitched you. 

Much like Cleopatra was known for her expert seduction skills, making slobbering children out of powerful men, Kristina's most effortless talent is her ability to lock you in with a simple look. 

As a Taurus and two-year New Yorker, I don't like waiting around for people. So when Kristina tried to postpone this interview for the third time, I texted her a simple, all-caps, "YOU GAVE ME YOUR WORD," and immediately knew I'd hooked her right where I wanted.

Who's the expert seducer now?! Just kidding. It was a tricky card to play with Kristina, as she doesn't take bullshit from anyone either but, alas, it worked.

LOOK AT THIS WOMAN.

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No matter what she does, people are drawn to her. She oozes sexiness just like Fette Sau oozes comfort. And if you don't know what Fette Sau is, just imagine warm, succulent barbecue sauce mixed with finger-licking yummy meat on delicious bones. There I go again, getting distracted with food. This might as well be called Living Slobbery since the very thought of food makes my mouth water.

OK, back to Kristina and her effortless beauty.

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Sexiness is within. - Kristina

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"But what's the secret?" I ask. 

A KILLER ATTITUDE, says Kristina. We both agree that each of us has a light within that's begging to shine through. A sexy light, if you will, that can be tapped into by getting to know yourself at your core. The more you discover who you are, the more you'll be able to live confidently in your own skin, allowing you to live a truly sexy life.

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There is real sexiness and real strength in femininity.

-Kristina

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During our conversation, which you can listen to using the player above, Kristina and I talked a bit about how sexiness, femininity and strength are sometimes used in the same context, but often in a jumbled and skewed way. I think we've confused what it means to live a sexy life, especially as it relates to the work environment and being perceived as a #GirlBOSS.

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I'd love to hear your thoughts about this as it genuinely interests me, but I DO think one thing has nothing to do with the other. A woman can be tough and still be feminine, a woman can be feminine and still be sexy, a woman can be sexy and still be tough, and all other combinations of those words hold true as well - in my book. 

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I chose Kristina for this feature because she has mastered the mix of femininity, sexiness and strength. I've experienced her killer attitude in the work environment (fact: she was my boss for a year), her effortless femininity no matter what she's doing and an undeniable sexiness that shines from within. It all supports my theory that we all have a unique recipe for being sexy, beautiful creatures.

I'd love to hear what's yours - and hopefully photograph it one day!

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K, thank you so much for being a part of this. I'm beyond grateful for the time you shared with me to do this interview + shoot. Lastly, thank you for keeping your word ;)

With love,

Tutti

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