So Jess is CLEARLY a stunner. She is one of the sweetest, most genuine and kind-hearted women I've met. From how we met to the many adventures we've shared since, calling Jessica a friend has been a true honor. In celebration of her journey to the land down under, where she has decided to move to with her beau after a 5-year stint in New York City/ Williamsburg, I asked her to please spend an hour with me so I could attempt to capture her magnificent beauty and chat a bit about what living sexy means to her.


We’re all works in progress, so if you can just stay present, and keep loving yourself, you’re going to be happy and feel sexy. - Jessica


Jessica and I met two years ago in Brooklyn when she was throwing a party in her building's courtyard and I happened to be staring down at it when one of her friends spotted me and invited me to join. A normal person would be semi-mortified, but we're talking about me here, the person who still smiles at strangers in the scary streets of New York City. Two years later, Jess and I have formed a true bond that will surely get even stronger with distance and time.

The reason I asked Jessica to be my first feature in this "Living Sexy" section is because she's an embodiment of a modern-day woman who's going for her dreams and pursuing her dream career. She's pursuing her dream life - and that's sexy.

When I asked her to participate, her girlish charm immediately turned on and said, "Who, meeeee???"  That's part of the reason she totally rocks being a sexy woman. We quickly started discussing outfit ideas, location options, etc. but when she showed me this dress, I knew it was the only piece we'd need to make this shoot a spectacular piece of art. Like many of the really cool ensembles Jessica puts together, this one came directly from her mom, making it absolutely perfect for this shoot. Jessica's mom passed away a few years ago, and it always stings when I remember that Jess is missing this huge part of her and yet is STILL able to be the shining light that she is. It simply amazes me. Hence, here we are. 

When I asked Jess what it means to her to live a sexy life, she took a few minutes to think about it. She finally said (and this was right after the shoot, as we were walking back to my apartment), "I think it's just letting go of all judgements... judgements toward myself and judgements from others, because once I do that, it's completely freeing."

I couldn't agree more. As I tell many of my clients and friends who ask me to take their picture, my favorite thing to capture is movement, because I always find beauty and freedom in those tiny moments in between the poses. There are pockets of light that lie within judgmental thoughts, so being able to simply let go of them altogether, produces this wonderful feeling of lightness and joy - and THAT is what I look to capture in people.


“Hell yeah, Im gonna twirl, my dress is gonna fly open… poor little kids have to cover their eyes... traumatizing kids since 1987.”


I hope you've enjoyed this first feature for "Living Sexy." Upon talking about it with friends and my mentors, the excitement I feel for its progress and development has only increased. So please join me in this adventure by subscribing to the blog and share with your friends so we can continue building each other up!

With love always,




Feature: Jessica Bunge, contact information by request

Living Sexy Is... Owning It

Have you ever woken up, looked in the mirror and with a soft chuckle think, "Man, I look rough"? I added the "chuckle" part because it's the key element in this scenario. No matter what side of the bed you wake up on one morning, or how skinny or overweight you think you are or what your definition of attractive is, the only thing that's real is that you are you. Which means, you're all you've got. So, with a chuckle, it's time to own it!

Sexiness is a way of living. It's a blend of elements, a concoction of spices, unique to every person, that creates an individual's natural sexiness. From how you choose to dress to the speed in which you make eye contact with a stranger, it's all part of the formula that makes YOU sexy. 

A couple months ago I wrote a piece for The Refined Woman about my view on beauty, and I summarized it in three words:Beauty is... Embracing Your Light. 

Similarly, living sexy means owning it: fully embracing what you have and don't have, loving your body and being proud of it, building yourself up with self-love and sharing your light with the world. 


Image by Katherine Harris

Image by Katherine Harris

Owning your sexiness means tapping into the part of you that's so pure and natural that it seems silly not to show it off to the world. 

Boudoir photography has allowed me to "demand" a level of intimate expression in women that few admit being natural to them. No matter how many shoots I do, every time a woman says -"This woman is so sexy and beautiful..... Is that really me???" - I'm always in shock.

How can it be that we've shunned ourselves from what's 100% natural within us? Isn't expressing ourselves in a sexy way, our ability to LOVE - others and ourselves - what separates us from the animal kingdom? Woah that was a random turn. But seriously, as humans who are able to connect, to love, to express ourselves THROUGH love, aren't we supposed to own the fact that we're also able to connect through intimacy, thus allowing for our natural sexiness to guide our ways of being? I think so. 

I propose we commit to not being ashamed or embarrassed to say, "I'm sexy and I know it, " (thanks for making that corny, Pitbull).


Own How You Walk. 

Own How You Look In Those Jeans.

Own The Way Your Smile Lights Up The Room.

Own It When You Stumble In Front Of Your Crush.

Own It When You've Gained A Couple Pounds.

Own How You Look In The Morning. 

Own It When You Turn Someone's Head. 

Own It When No One Seems To Notice. 

At All Times, OWN YOUR SEXY. It's Yours For The Taking.


Phew. Thanks for sticking that one out. Now, for the REALLY EXCITING part. This is the official kick-off for the new "Living Sexy Is..." column in my blog. I will be reaching out to many sexy people, some who I've met but most who I simply hope to meet, to share with us what their special blend of living sexy includes -  both women AND men. So if you know anyone who might be interested in being featured on the blog, send them a link to this blog and tell her/him to reach out at 

My passion is connecting with people, so I want to hear from you!

Stay tuned for interviews, pictures and videos of many, many sexy people who are OWNING IT. 

Stay sexy, beautiful friends. 





Photo c/o Kat Harris